About Accepting Dad

I’ve been a lot of things in my life; the most important of those things is a father of two boys. Both have special needs. One’s needs are more uncommon than the other’s.

For the last five years or so I’ve belonged to a few wonderful on-line communities supporting parents of gender-nonconforming (or gender-variant, or transgender) children. The lonliness, isolation, and sadness I’d felt without understanding, was lifted once I found these fellow travelers, and I found that writing posts seemed to help both myself, and the people reading them.

I’ve made the time and space to document my child’s growth, development, and my own journey to acceptance of transender, in the broadest sense of that word, not just as transexualism, but as the breadth of the world outside the gender binary.

As a straight, white, ‘professional,’ male father of an intact family, with two boys, one gender non-conforming, one not, I have felt called upon to speak for the community of accepting parents from this position of empathy with more conventional families. I speak to the straight, heterosexual majority as one of them. I speak to the homophobic and the transphobic as one who was, at one time, both of those things.

The posts will be added over time, non-chronogically, as I mine them out of the list-serv’s archives, and edit them of identifying personal information.

If you know of a father who is struggling with his son’s (or daughter, but I speak mainly to my own experience here.) gender identity, sexual preference, gender expression, send them here. There is illumination in dialog; salvation in confession; solace in community, as we become the people our children need us to be.

I write this out of the love for my son, and my love now for all sons, all daughters born as sons, all gender-nonconforming youth who have lost their families for being who they had no choice but to be. I write to say, (as almost all writing exists to say) that human change is not only possible, but inevitable. Just hold your love for your child in your heart as you ask the age old questions—

What is a boy? A girl? A man? A woman? What does it mean to be human? To be different?

And listen to your child’s answers.

{ 44 comments… read them below or add one }

Del Mulhern October 1, 2009 at 9:21 pm

My name is Del, and I am a contributing editor of TransEnough, a blog addressing life from the point of view of the transgender,
genderqueer, intersex and gender non-conforming communities. We host several regular monthly columnists as well as playing host to monthly guest columnists. I am familiar with your work around these populations, and would be pleased if you would consider writing a guest column for us.

You can read more about the TransEnough project at
http://transenough.com and find further information about our parent organization, Gender (Free) For All, at http://genderfreeforall.org

Thank you for your consideration, and please let me know at your earliest convenience if you would be interested in writing a column for us.

Warm Regards,

Del Mulhern
Contributing Editor
del@genderfreeforall.org
TransEnough.com
GenderFreeForAll.org

Elizabeth Rahilly November 3, 2009 at 11:35 am

My name is Elizabeth and I am a graduate student in sociology. For my Master’s thesis, I am conducting interviews with parents of gender variant children, namely learning about parents’ thoughts, feelings, experiences, challenges, and triumphs in this area. One interest I have developed in this area is the growing online community of parents, specifically as it relates to the more public sites that are popping up on the internet (parents’ blogs and web pages). I was wondering if I could ask you some questions about your site, via email, for my research. I also would be happy to explain to you more about my research and answer any questions you may have. I would be grateful for your thoughts and input.

If you might be interested in this, you can reach me at: erahilly@umail.ucsb.edu.

Thank you so much for your time and dedication in this area.

Best,

Elizabeth

Dean November 7, 2009 at 4:41 pm

Hi there,

I just want to say that reading this here has moved me to tears. I’m 32 and I’m one of those GV adults. I’ve always been GV. It’s a weird headspace where I am as I identify as a femme male, but I am both physically and genetically female. My partner of 4 years identifies as a femme female, but is physically and genetically female. I read this blog aloud in our office and we were both laughing and crying. We both wish our parents had been as strong as you are.

Thank you for just existing,
Dean

Bedford Hope November 7, 2009 at 8:50 pm

Thank you! Just existing is one of the things I’m best at! Heh.

Ambiguity is very hard for us to accept, to deal with; a healthcare professional I know told me a story, of how infertile couples who are told they CANT have kids deal with it, adopt, or move on. Couples that are told the have a very very slim chance do much much worse; they struggle for years and years, never knowing, never deciding…

If it’s hard for us on the outside of the gender mystery, it must be harder, on the inside. The not knowing. But we are all mysterious, you know. Even to ourselves, sometimes, even us normative types.

It is good to think that love transcends all this (though sometimes I guess it doesn’t.) Mine has, so far. My transphobia has become a kind of transphilia.. I don’t know, at some point, you stop worrying, what other people think.

That’s when you can really start to figure yourself out. I think my son never worried about what other people thought. I think in the end that will be a good thing.

You sound like you’ve found someone, and yourself, and if I’m right, then congratulations. You win. That’s as good as it gets.

love,

BH

Manecdote November 8, 2009 at 1:06 pm

Dear Accepting Dad,
Congratulations on a fantastic and open attitude, this will make your kid and your lives much richer and closer!
As a gay adult man who was lucky enough to have extremely supportive parents, family and friends I did never experience the pain of rejection or being made fun of, but I did observe it in many a classmate in my youth. You have brought to mind a wonderful 1997 French film called “Ma Vie En Rose” (My Rose-colored Life), if you haven’t seen it do try and again congratulations and cheers!

Rob November 8, 2009 at 5:16 pm

I linked here through an article in the NYTimes. this is great. this is one of the great things about the web. it’s so much easier to find or create your community.

I’m still not sure why I have so much interest in gender variance. I like that this resource is available.

Bedford Hope November 8, 2009 at 5:51 pm

Freedom of gender expression and sexual preference is the great civil rights struggle of our generation; the gender queer / transgendered are following in the footsteps of the gays and lesbians, but they are three steps behind in terms of acceptance by the broader culture.

The world that can accept these kids, these people, is a better world; it’s a world where people mind their own goddamn business; when someone isn’t hurting someone, you respect them as they respect you.

K November 9, 2009 at 12:32 am

I’m twenty years old and GV. (I identify as androgynous, though I lean hard toward “guy.”) My mother is someone who will never understand and can only make me miserable. She used to force me to wear dresses even though I hated them. She screamed at me when I finally got up the nerve to cut my hair supershort. And when I started crying and told her I feel like she doesn’t like me very much, she said of course she loves me, she just doesn’t always like the choices I make.

Like I chose to be born with a female body. Like I chose to feel better about EVERYTHING when I dress like a guy. I don’t want to lose my mother because of this, but it hurts so much to be around her that I’m already trying to figure out how to extract her from my life. I can’t be the daughter she wanted, and I wish every single day that I had a mother I could trust to love me no matter what.

So I wanted to tell you, after reading a lot of your posts–from the bottom of my heart, thank you for loving and accepting your child. And thank you for writing about it, because it makes me feel a little more hopeful about the world I live in. Sir, you’re wonderful. I wish you were my dad. I’m going to keep reading.

Bedford Hope November 9, 2009 at 1:28 am

I’m so sorry. I hate to say you should give her time. Maybe to stay sane you have to give yourself time away from her. I know it can take time to change, though. Take time to understand.

I know you aren’t choosing something, I know you are what you are, we all are. I watched my boy turn into a girl and now i’m watching him turn into something else, maybe. And I think we are all of us turning into something else all the time.

I hope love wins. Time will show your mom that this isn’t a whim, I hope.

You’re only twenty; life is long and full of many things. Families are always a struggle. Mine included. But I have to think that the love is in her for you, even if she doesn’t get it, and maybe you have to get away, but you can know that there is real love there.

My mom and my grandmother used to fight a lot. My mother was with her when she died, saying, “always loved you. Always.” My grandmother didn’t show it well. Or at all, maybe. But it was in there. Maybe that didn’t do my mom all that much good. But it is something to think about.

Take care of yourself.

Aaron Baker November 9, 2009 at 4:34 pm

Thank you for writing this column.My soon-to-be 13 year-old son would be happy I’ve found you as well. When he was 4 or 5, we knew he’d not have the same gender boundaries as what most people in the Bible Belt would consider “normal” (including his fundamentalist Christian mother, unfortunately). I think it’s important – for the safety of our precious children – to reduce ignorance in the hearts and minds of adults who may not be as accepting as you and I. Thank you again for what you do. I truly appreciate it.

taria November 9, 2009 at 4:35 pm

thank you
thank you
for your deepest sincerity in loving your child
i live in the community of people who struggle with their parents
acceptance
my second son also exhibits of gender non-comformity
i love him
without judgement
too many friends have lost their families
thank you
i am sharing this blog with many parents i know

Veronica November 10, 2009 at 2:19 am

Thank you so much for sharing.

If all parents were as ready to be accepting and understanding, we could all be less worried about the future of our youth.

Gretchen Seefried January 19, 2010 at 2:15 pm

I am happy to have found your blog! Have struggled with this issue for years, first with my second child and oldest boy, who is now a happy, grounded theatre student at NYU and now with my fifth and youngest child (10) who identifies himself as a boy who like girl stuff. And he has been well aware of the fact that he better keep that pretty secret if he doesn’t want to be teased, bullied, shunned, taunted-which has created an extraordinary and debilitating amount of anxiety in his short life. I salute you for being an accepting dad!

A January 23, 2010 at 1:43 pm

I love seeing how individuals take it upon themselves to make the world better for others. Thank you!
I am a 24-year-old lesbian in, perhaps, the safest, most accepting community in the world. But I am also an educator, and not every community is prepared for surprises in their own home or classroom; children have a way of introducing what we least expect. I am adding your site to my ever-growing list of resources for a rainy day or sudden drama-storm, and I am thrilled that, among all the educator’s work on gender-subjects, I can include some things for parents, too.
Thank you for sharing and for taking initiative!

Bedford Hope January 29, 2010 at 7:33 am

The culture is moving quickly. Unfortunately, the manual used by professionals to talk about gender identity (DSM) in kids is being re-written in part by an advocate for childhood reparative therapy, so we are going to have a long road ahead of us before the insights and knowledge embodied by supportive therapists spread industry wide. Parents need to be very very careful when seeking help for their children not to use therapists who will worsen their child’s condition. The ignorance out there is still phenomenal.

Cheryl June 22, 2010 at 8:41 pm

Hi. I love your blog. I am the parent of an almost 6yo gender variant male. My child dresses full time in girls clothes, yet we haven’t switched pronouns or fully transitioned him in terms of name change. I was wondering how Oscar identifies himself, is he saying he is boy who likes girl stuff, or is actually a girl (my son is saying he is a girl). I just keep avoiding pronouns at this point but as he is getting bigger and school in Sept approaches I am not sure how to handle it.It is a shame that we have to declare one or other,for a while we have been living ‘undeclared’ like an undeclared major in college, why decide now. But as time goes on it seems like society is going to force our hand. I was curious how you got to age 11, I figured it maybe was that Oscar isn’t demanding he is female (my son is),but thought I would check with you for any advice..Thanks.C

ejayo June 22, 2010 at 10:12 pm

Oscar didn’t demand female pronouns or declare himself female; as a kid he once cried himself to sleep after asking why his mother hadn’t made him girl. One of those moments you don’t forget.

I don’t know if you’ve had good professional help, but there are kids who claim the female identity at a young age who later on identify as male; usually gay male. Of course, some of these kids are born in the wrong body. Telling the difference can be very difficult in some cases.

I introduced Oscar to the concept of transgender, GRS, when he was in first grade, I think, after we spotted someone doing the real life test at a coffeeshop. Oscar wasn’t interested. It didn’t seem to relate to him. He has been confused by ‘men in dresses,’ too. He doesn’t see himself that way. He has never been particularly dysphoric, has always been functional, has never said he hated his penis, etc. I’ve asked him point blank, a few times, a few sweaty hard times, if he was interested in these kind of interventions, and he said, “I don’t want to go that far.” He’d had some surgery as a kid, a hernia, and I guess that had turned him off to it.

I wish everyone lived in a part of the country where it was understood that kids can want to present as female, or male, as young kids, and it may not mean they’re trans, it may not mean they’re gay. Crossdressers, the genderqueer, the people in the middle of the gender continuum–they exist. this is too much for some people, and some places, but we have been lucky, that enough people around us have gotten that.

There is a supportive view of our kids that is very skeptical and careful about early transition; what it means to be a girl, and what it means to be a woman, are different; a kid who socially transitions isn’t doing a real life test, because a kids point of view of gender is less complex than an adults.

It’s hard stuff to work through.

I’m still not totally sure if Oscar is a boy or a girl; he may be a girl who is more or less comfortable in a boy’s body. Maybe he’ll want GRS later. He doesn’t want blockers and he isn’t going to get them. We know that now.

I think the community of supportive parents agonizing over early transition sometimes gets ahead of itself. I sure did! I was sure the child was trans and we’d be on blockers; I couldn’t imagine a kid more gender variant than my kid.

PMC August 2, 2010 at 8:24 pm

Thank you for loving your children, and encouraging others to do the same…

Tey Meadow, JD August 3, 2010 at 9:18 am

Dear Accepting Dad,

I’m a sociologist at New York University, and I’m working on a book project about families with transgender and gender nonconforming children. I have interviewed dozens of families and youth throughout the United States on a variety of issues- from processes of acceptance to interactions with mental and physical health providers, schools, religious communities and the state. I wondered if you might be willing to talk with me for the book. All interviews are confidential.

Please feel free to contact me at tey.meadow@nyu.edu. I hope to hear from you.

With thanks and admiration,
Tey

hope October 20, 2010 at 6:32 pm

I don’t know how to email you, so I’m just posting this to your blog. This family was recently interviewed on a tv station in the Seattle area–clip is on her website. Her book “My Princess Boy” looks great. Thought you might be interested.

http://www.myprincessboy.com/

Olivia Ahnemann January 5, 2011 at 3:05 pm

Dear Bedford,
I am a film producer researching a potential documentary about gender for PBS’s science series, NOVA. I have read your Slate article on “Camp I Am” and would be interested to talk to you about various programs and camps that support gender variant youth.

I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you for your time.
Sincerely,
Olivia Ahnemann

Psyniac March 15, 2011 at 4:19 pm

You, sir, are a fantastic person and hopefully an inspiration to many. I look forward to reading more.

Julie July 13, 2011 at 9:39 pm

He has been feminine always. He is attracted to girls not men. He feels like he is a girl and wants to move forward. He told me this last week…he’s 18.
I am listening..but my husband..wont..I dont know.
Anything is welcome

Leslie July 24, 2011 at 2:39 pm

Dear Accepting Dad –

I have followed your blog for awhile and found it very interesting and thought provoking. I am a mom of a transgender child (f to m) – Sam is 14 but has told us since he was three that he was really a boy inside. I recently launched my own blog – Transparenthood – and wanted to let you know that I added a link on my site to yours. If you are interested, my blog address is: http://www.transparenthood.net

My hope is that by sharing our experience we can help spread awareness of the vastness of the gender spectrum and reduce the stigma surrounding this community.

My thanks to you for your blog – it is wonderful!
Leslie

labelsareforjars August 3, 2011 at 6:56 pm

Heya, Bedford.
I know we were in contact a bit a while back (you doctored up my banner pic so nicely! I’m wondering if there’s a way to contact you to get a bit more insight into local resources for parents of kiddos like ours. We’re needing to up the ante in the support domain. Thanks! -labels

Jayson November 14, 2011 at 9:36 pm

I wish my parents were as awesome as you. I came out as a trans-guy to them almost a year ago, but they don’t even talk about it anymore. And my dad completely forgot. I’m trying to make the best of everything, but that’s getting harder and harder to do. I have a lot of really awesome friends, though. So I’m focusing on them while my parents get used to having a son.

You probably live no where around me, that’s why it’s always easier to find accepting people online. I live in Houston, Texas and it’s extremely hard to find someone that understands what I’m going through.

I hope you don’t mind, I sent them a link to your blog. I’ll find out what they say about it tomorrow.

Thank you. Thank you so much. You’ve restored my faith in humanity.

ejayo November 14, 2011 at 10:39 pm

It can take awhile for people to come around. Many times they do. I hope that this happens for you. I am a part of a community of hundreds of parents who are working through these issues. Your parents should reach out for some sort of support group, even if it’s only on-line, it can help a lot. Many people have a lot to unlearn. The issue of dealing with an adult kid who comes out as trans is different from dealing with gender non-conforming kids at home…the Transkidsfamily email list is a great place for parents to share their feelings. There are so many parents there who in the beginning felt blindsided and embarassed and horrible—who had to go through this grieving process…and who emerge, finally supportive and happy and whole again, closer to their kids than ever. Hearing that from another parent can be so important. My heart goes out to you. I’m glad you have good friends to help you through it.

Irwin Krieger December 31, 2011 at 11:42 am

Hello,
I just want to let folks know about my book “Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents.” Information about the book and a listing of resources for parents of transgender teens are available at http://www.helpingyourtransgenderteen.com.
Bedford, thanks for your website. If you would like a copy of the book to review, please email me.
Happy New Year!
Irwin

LMR January 17, 2012 at 12:00 pm

You are a VERY good writer. As a Christian, I have always pondered and questioned these gender “issues” (for lack of a better term). I wonder how God would want us to respond to these children and to these parents. For what it’s worth, and it’s not worth much, I am doing my part to be open to what you and people in your situation have to say. Your loneliness and confusion may be a little less if more people opened their hearts up to your stories instead of merely rejecting something they dont understand. Thank-you!

Bedford Hope January 17, 2012 at 1:44 pm

Thanks for reading. As one of the first self-identified Christians to post a response, you now have to endure my just crafted response to Christians of unknown attitude towards GLBTQ.

As an agnostic, I don’t have the very specific language needed to move a Christian from a place of non-acceptance, towards a place of acceptance, where many Christians now find themselves. For some families in our community of supportive parents, this has entailed changing churches, a wrenching prospect I have a hard time understanding.

What I do know is that Christians have been on both sides of all the important civil rights issues in this country, slavery, segregation, suffrage. I think, if you are a person who is against slavery, for a woman’s right to vote, against Jim Crow, it’s sort of…easy…to see where most Christians are going to be in a hundred years.

I ask Christians to examine their thoughts with regards to those Christians who supported slavery, who supported segregation, who must have ignored some tiny voice inside while doing so. Mark Twain talks about listening to a slave, who had been beaten, sobbing all night long, who was keeping him awake, with a profound sense of confusion. He knew that the neighbor had every right to beat the man, who was his property, this was normal and ordained and just, in that time and place, Christian in every way, but it didn’t feel right. It didn’t sit right.

I think many Christians today are sitting in the dark, hearing the cries of those who are, on a daily basis, hounded, scorned, beaten, murdered on occasion, for simply being who they are. They know, or their churches teach them, that GLBTQ are simple getting what they deserve for flouting the handful of clobber passages, and yet. It doesn’t feel quite right.

For there is no way to love a sinner, and hate the sin, when you see sin at the core of someone else’s identity. You end up hating the sinner. This is why GLBTQ people comit suicide when they are ejected from families, from groups, from churches, from workplaces. Christians aren’t really loving them.

But I’m not really an expert on these things. sorry to go on so long in response to your gracious comment.

Nora Gaines March 16, 2012 at 12:24 pm

Dear Accepting Dad,

I’m writing to let you know about a new research guide that has been created at Bank Street College Library, “Resources for Families of Gender Variant and Transgender Children”: http://libguides.bankstreet.edu/transchildren

We hope you’ll find it useful – we’ve linked to some of the resources here, and you’ll also find this blog included in the section of parents’ blogs. The site is still very much in-progress, and we’d welcome any suggestions or feedback.

thank you,
Nora Gaines
Acquisitions & eReserves Librarian
Bank Street College of Education
610 West 112th Street
New York, New York 10025
(212) 875-4457
ngaines@bankstreet.edu

Quiet Riot Girl May 1, 2012 at 8:43 am

Hi I love this blog.

I am running a set of articles at the Good Men Project. The theme is teen boys/young men:

http://goodmenproject.com/the-good-men-project-content-calendar/teenage-kicks-55/

I am keen to include something by a Dad. It doesn’t matter how old your children are it would still be relevant.

If you’re interested in either donating a post here or writing a new one, OR doing a Q and A with me let me know!

Thanks

QRG/Elly
ellytams@gmail.com

Jessica June 14, 2012 at 10:16 am

I have just stumbled upon your blog, and I’m so happy that I have. Thank you for writing of your own experiences, for opening the eyes of myself and so many others, and mostly, for being a father. Reading your posts does my heart good.

ejayo June 14, 2012 at 10:23 am

You’re welcome!

Todd July 20, 2012 at 2:04 pm

Thank you so much for starting this blog. I too am the father of two boys, twins as a matter of fact, one being traditionally male, the other being a gender non-conformist. It has been a huge struggle overcoming my own personal bias, my fears for my son, and the judgements we face as a family for allowing our son to be who he wants to be.

Although we have had many struggles, we have also had even more succeses. We now have pretty much universal support from our extended families, we have a great relationship with our schools, many of our friends and our sons friends have come to accept Hayden for who he is, and Hayden seems like a much happier kid.

ali August 27, 2012 at 3:15 pm

I’ve come upon your site as I search for answers. My case is a little different. I’m the father of a grown son, in his 30′s, and five years ago I transitioned into my true female self. Do you know of any ref. material etc. or any sources with possible helpful ways to help my son accept me more . For 28 years he saw me totally different. We have a wonderfully deep love for each other and this is just such a struggle for him. And I can understand how he feels. I really try to. Thank you, ali

ejayo August 28, 2012 at 8:21 pm

It is amazing, isn’t it? It seems to vary, some places, some kids, some families, have a harder time than others. So often, what we’ve built up in our minds is so much worse that the actuality. Glad you found your way. One thing that’s interesting to me is that as a Dad, in general, to your face, people are supportive of your acceptance. For moms, the moms I know who blog on this–they get blamed and excoriated. I think a lot of people have figured out that it’s best if dad kinda gets with the program, but many still blame mom, in the end! Once we’ve wrestled with our own demons, the world is pretty kind to us.

niki October 18, 2012 at 11:09 am

Hi My name is Niki Bhatia and I am a mom to 2 boys, 10 and 6. I am also a teacher and author of PINK IS JUST A COLOR AND SO IS BLUE.
It is available exclusively on Amazon.

http://www.amazon.com/Pink-Just-Color-So-Blue/dp/1469902176/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1350579363&sr=8-1&keywords=pink+is+just+a+color+and+so+is+blue

I hope you will get a copy and review it on your blog for me. I am a self published writer and your help is appreciated in getting the word out about my book.

The main message of the book is that not everything in the world should be so pink and blue. Gender specific toys and colors inhibit children. Though it is not meant specifically to address gender identity issues, I know that the massage can apply to all children. We want our children to grow up confident, secure and happy individuals. Why should children be ridiculed for liking a specific color or for choosing toplay with certain toys. We expect our men to nurturing and great dads yet we think it out of norm for a boy to play with dolls! We want to tell our girls that they can be anything in ths world yet we think it weird if she doesn’t like dresses and tea-parties.

Lets look past all the gender specifics and lets kids explore and play…
Let me know what you think of the book and share it with your friends….

Eric Rockey February 20, 2013 at 10:11 am

Dear Accepting Dad,

I’ve been reading your blog and love your friendly writing style and the humanity you display tackling these difficult issues!

I am a documentary film maker finishing my masters at the New School, and am directing a short film on gender non-conforming kids. Would you be interested in being interviewed for this project? And also, would it be possible to post this for other parents to see, in case they might be interested?

I can be reached at info@pinkboysfilm.com .

Thanks much,
Eric Rockey

Tay McEvers February 20, 2013 at 1:24 pm

Hi!

I’m working with an award-winning production company and a top-rated national cable network to cast a new documentary series that will explore unique perspectives on parenting. I enjoy your blog and I think you might be a good fit for the show. This would be a great opportunity for you to share your insight and expertise with a much larger audience.

Over the coming weeks, we’ll be conducting interviews with prospective parents and families. These interviews will largely take place via webcam, so no travel will be required. Any parents that are interested in being considered are encouraged to get in touch with me as soon as they can.

If you are interested in being considered for the show or have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me via email or at the number below. Any readers who are interested are welcome to contact me as well.

Thanks!

Tay McEvers
Casting AP
Punched in the Head Productions
(718) 422-0704 x 121
tay.mcevers@punchedinthehead.com

susan maasch March 31, 2013 at 3:20 pm

hello, nice to come across your blog. I noticed our organization, national but offices in Portland, Maine, is not listed with other orgs for trans youth and their families. Please take a look at our information and please consider listing us as a great resource. Thanks! http://www.transyouthequality.org and on facebook: trans youth equality foundation

Let me know if you have any questions. We have broad resources and summer and fall camps for transgender children ages 7-17. These are very popular and kids come from all over the country! Hope you’ll consider listing us! Bravo on blog!

Ben July 2, 2013 at 8:56 pm

I’m so so glad I found your page. I am a seventeen year old transman, and I plan on asking my dad to take me to a therapist to diagnose me with gender dysphoria so that I can begin hormone treatments soon. I have no idea how he will react, because when I first told him I’m trans, he didn’t seem to have much of a reaction at all. I’m not sure if he’s completely forgotten about it, or if he thinks of it every time he looks at me. He’s not adamantly against anything of that nature, but I think he just prefers not to bring it up. I am very nervous about asking him to take me to a specialist, so I was wondering if you could tell me how you reacted when you first discovered your child is GV and how you dealt with it. And I was also wondering if you could write something addressing my dad, so that I can show him he’s not alone. Thank you so much.

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ejayo August 5, 2013 at 12:19 pm

Sorry to be so late on this. I’m going write a post to your dad right now.

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