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		<title>By: ejayo</title>
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		<dc:creator>ejayo</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:25:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m sorry to hear about your situation; i think even for this area we are very lucky, and a few dedicated homophobes could make our lives a living hell.

Are your parents supportive? I think they should call the school and ask what actions are being taken against the boys in this case. I don&#039;t think they&#039;ll ever respect you, but a persistent focus on this could I think make it not worth the while to do this during school hours. I could understand being loathe to do this for fear of repercussions outside of school though. Still, you seem very brave, and I think that pursuing this further might be a good thing for you, your school, and the kids themselves, who could find themselves on the other side of a lawsuit when they enter the workforce. 

This is a civil rights issue; if you can prove that the environment in your school is preventing you from getting your public education, there is often recourse. Without any explicit protection from hate crimes or anti-bullying legislation, there are still options for legal action. Sometimes you can force a school system to pay for a private tutor; this costs big bucks, so schools who don&#039;t give a rat&#039;s ass about social justice will often come around and do something when you threaten to hit them in the pocketbook.

It&#039;s never a good idea to start a conversation by talking about suing someone or filing suit, but knowing that that is an option can inform your family&#039;s negotiations with the school, and it exists as a final resort. 

Good luck!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m sorry to hear about your situation; i think even for this area we are very lucky, and a few dedicated homophobes could make our lives a living hell.</p>
<p>Are your parents supportive? I think they should call the school and ask what actions are being taken against the boys in this case. I don&#8217;t think they&#8217;ll ever respect you, but a persistent focus on this could I think make it not worth the while to do this during school hours. I could understand being loathe to do this for fear of repercussions outside of school though. Still, you seem very brave, and I think that pursuing this further might be a good thing for you, your school, and the kids themselves, who could find themselves on the other side of a lawsuit when they enter the workforce. </p>
<p>This is a civil rights issue; if you can prove that the environment in your school is preventing you from getting your public education, there is often recourse. Without any explicit protection from hate crimes or anti-bullying legislation, there are still options for legal action. Sometimes you can force a school system to pay for a private tutor; this costs big bucks, so schools who don&#8217;t give a rat&#8217;s ass about social justice will often come around and do something when you threaten to hit them in the pocketbook.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s never a good idea to start a conversation by talking about suing someone or filing suit, but knowing that that is an option can inform your family&#8217;s negotiations with the school, and it exists as a final resort. </p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
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		<title>By: Shane</title>
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		<dc:creator>Shane</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Mar 2010 20:26:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You and your son are privileged to have such a wonderful school. I&#039;m a sophomore in public high school, and last week four boys made around 30+ derogatory remarks about homosexuality within clear earshot of the teacher. She did absolutely nothing, didn&#039;t even acknowledge it, although she&#039;s quick to tell off anyone who dares swear in her classroom. I smacked one of them over the head with my notebook (he&#039;s done this before and challenged me to a fight, so in my defense, it was well overdue), and after school was released went to the office. The receptionist directed me to the vice principal, who took down the boys&#039; names and a description of the incident, telling me he would deal with them and thanking me for reporting them, all the while staring at my chest. It&#039;s been over a week since the event took place, and to the best of my knowledge, not a single thing has been done.
Thank God you and Oscar are having better luck with the school district you live in. :) As much as I hate to teach, I&#039;m seriously considering home schooling my future child(ren) so they won&#039;t have to put up with this. Although I would dearly love the opportunity to be the irate parent, storming into the principal&#039;s office, smoke pouring out of my ears...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You and your son are privileged to have such a wonderful school. I&#8217;m a sophomore in public high school, and last week four boys made around 30+ derogatory remarks about homosexuality within clear earshot of the teacher. She did absolutely nothing, didn&#8217;t even acknowledge it, although she&#8217;s quick to tell off anyone who dares swear in her classroom. I smacked one of them over the head with my notebook (he&#8217;s done this before and challenged me to a fight, so in my defense, it was well overdue), and after school was released went to the office. The receptionist directed me to the vice principal, who took down the boys&#8217; names and a description of the incident, telling me he would deal with them and thanking me for reporting them, all the while staring at my chest. It&#8217;s been over a week since the event took place, and to the best of my knowledge, not a single thing has been done.<br />
Thank God you and Oscar are having better luck with the school district you live in. <img src='http://www.acceptingdad.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  As much as I hate to teach, I&#8217;m seriously considering home schooling my future child(ren) so they won&#8217;t have to put up with this. Although I would dearly love the opportunity to be the irate parent, storming into the principal&#8217;s office, smoke pouring out of my ears&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Bedford Hope</title>
		<link>http://www.acceptingdad.com/2010/02/22/consequences-for-bullies/comment-page-1/#comment-110</link>
		<dc:creator>Bedford Hope</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 03:27:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I agree, parental involvement is what makes all this work; without it, there are no consequences. Our school canceling the bus, running through the conflict resolution, assigning the essay—signed by the bully&#039;s parents (which I was permitted to read.) all of it, only occurred because I made the complaint. My son had mixed feelings; didn&#039;t want to be a snitch. I forced the issue and I&#039;m lucky that they responded in a reasonable fashion. I know of many parents who haven&#039;t been so lucky. We all do what we can do.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree, parental involvement is what makes all this work; without it, there are no consequences. Our school canceling the bus, running through the conflict resolution, assigning the essay—signed by the bully&#8217;s parents (which I was permitted to read.) all of it, only occurred because I made the complaint. My son had mixed feelings; didn&#8217;t want to be a snitch. I forced the issue and I&#8217;m lucky that they responded in a reasonable fashion. I know of many parents who haven&#8217;t been so lucky. We all do what we can do.</p>
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		<title>By: allison</title>
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		<dc:creator>allison</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:01:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Many schools take bullying very seriously and even teach anti-bullying curriculum.  However, often times staff are unaware when it happens because it isn&#039;t reported.  I do recommend calling and talking to an administrator or counselor to see what steps have and can be taken.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many schools take bullying very seriously and even teach anti-bullying curriculum.  However, often times staff are unaware when it happens because it isn&#8217;t reported.  I do recommend calling and talking to an administrator or counselor to see what steps have and can be taken.</p>
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